In this series, we will explore the different generational groups that make up our society, starting with the Silent Generation and ending with the newest cohort, Generation Alpha. Each generation is shaped by the historical events, cultural shifts, and technological advancements of their time. These influences play a crucial role in shaping their values, communication styles, and even how they approach major life events—including their perspectives on aging, terminal illness, and end-of-life decisions.

​Understanding these generational differences allows us to foster better relationships, bridge communication gaps, and provide more compassionate care and support, regardless of where we are on our own end-of-life journey. By exploring the unique experiences and characteristics of each generation, we can gain deeper insights into how to connect, support, and empathize with people of all ages.
According to Parents.com’s A Year-by-Year Guide to the Different Generations, the currently recognized generational groups are:
The Silent Generation (1928-1945) – Shaped by the Great Depression, World War II, and the early post-war years, this generation values hard work, resilience, and loyalty.
Baby Boomers (1946-1964) – Born in the post-war economic boom, this generation witnessed major social changes, including the civil rights movement, the Vietnam War, and the rise of suburban life.
Generation X (1965-1980) – Often described as independent and adaptable, Gen X grew up during the rise of personal computers, economic shifts, and cultural transformations of the late 20th century.
Millennials (1981-1996) – This generation came of age during the digital revolution, globalization, and events like 9/11 and the Great Recession, shaping their values of connectivity, social consciousness, and work-life balance.
Generation Z (1997-2010) – The first true digital natives, Gen Z has been influenced by social media, climate change awareness, and global activism, valuing diversity, inclusivity, and mental health awareness.
Generation Alpha (2010-2024) – The youngest generation, growing up in an era of rapid technological advancements, artificial intelligence, and a world reshaped by the COVID-19 pandemic.

Throughout this series, we will delve into the defining characteristics of each generation, examining how their experiences shape their perspectives on life, aging, and end-of-life care. By fostering this understanding, we can create a more compassionate and supportive environment for people of all generations.

​At Evergreen, part of our mission is to provide funding for End of Life Doulas. But what exactly is an End of Life Doula?

An End of Life Doula, also known as a Death Doula, is a trained professional who offers holistic, non-medical support to individuals and their loved ones, typically during the final stages of life. However, their role is not limited to end-of-life care—they can also provide guidance and assistance at any stage. For example, an End of Life Doula may work with a pregnant individual to help them complete an advance directive in case of unforeseen complications during labor and delivery.

Unlike medical professionals such as nurses, End of Life Doulas do not provide clinical care. Instead, they help bridge gaps in support by offering emotional, practical, and informational assistance. While nurses and hospice staff may not be available for daily visits, an End of Life Doula can provide more frequent check-ins, observe any changes in the client’s condition, and communicate updates to the medical team.

Each End of Life Doula brings a unique background and set of skills, tailoring their approach to meet the specific needs of the individual and their loved ones. Some common services they provide include:

Assisting with Advance Care Directives and end-of-life planning
Providing respite care for family caregivers
Offering emotional and spiritual support
Creating legacy projects or memory books
Helping with vigil planning and bedside support in the final hours
Guiding families through the grieving process

End of Life Doulas play a vital role in ensuring that individuals and their families feel supported, heard, and empowered during difficult transitions. Through their compassionate presence, they help bring dignity, peace, and clarity to the journey of life and death.

​March 6th marks National Slam the Scam Day, a day dedicated to raising awareness about scams and empowering individuals to protect themselves and their loved ones from fraud. Scammers often target older adults, especially those aged 60 and above, with one in ten becoming victims of financial exploitation. According to the Michigan Institute for Healthcare Policy and Innovation, 75% of older adults have reported encountering scam attempts aimed at stealing their personal or banking information via phone calls, mail, or online messages. Alarmingly, individuals in poor health are more likely to fall victim to these schemes.

Some of the most common scams targeting seniors include:

Investment Scams – Fraudulent investment opportunities promising high returns with little risk.
Tech Support Scams – Scammers pose as technical support agents, claiming there’s an issue with the victim’s computer or device to gain access to personal data.
Business Email Compromise (BEC) Scams – Fraudsters impersonate company executives or employees to trick individuals into transferring money or sharing sensitive information.
How to Protect Yourself and Your Loved Ones
There are several proactive steps you can take to safeguard yourself and your loved ones from scams:

Educate Yourself on Different Types of Scams
Awareness is key. Understanding common scams will help you recognize red flags before falling victim to fraud.

Set Up Alerts on Financial Accounts
Enable text or email notifications for bank and credit accounts. This allows you to detect any unauthorized activity early and take immediate action to stop further damage.

Monitor Your Credit Report for Fraud
You are entitled to one free credit report per year from each of the major credit reporting agencies. Reviewing your report regularly can help you identify signs of identity theft or fraudulent accounts opened in your name. If you find incorrect or suspicious information, file a dispute with the credit bureau immediately.

Place a Credit Freeze on Your Report
A credit freeze prevents anyone from opening new credit accounts in your name, adding an extra layer of security. Freezing your credit is a simple process and can be done through major credit bureaus like Equifax, Experian, and TransUnion.

Final Thoughts
Falling for a scam is nothing to be ashamed of—scammers are highly skilled at deception and use sophisticated tactics to exploit their victims. If you or someone you know has been scammed, report it immediately to local authorities, the Federal Trade Commission (FTC), or the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau (CFPB). By staying informed and taking proactive steps, we can help prevent scams and protect ourselves and our communities.

​Grief is a universal emotion, often described as the price we pay for loving someone deeply. It touches everyone in unique ways, yet it remains a shared human experience that connects us all. Over time, various theories and analogies have emerged to help us understand and navigate the complexities of grief. One of my favorite analogies is “The Ball and the Box,” created by Lauren Herschel, which offers a simple yet powerful way to visualize and explain the nature of grief.

In this analogy, grief is likened to a box containing a ball and a pain button. When a loved one dies, the ball is enormous, filling almost the entire box. Its sheer size means it constantly presses against the pain button, causing near-constant emotional pain and distress. In the early days of grief, this overwhelming sensation dominates, leaving little room for relief or reprieve.

As time passes, the ball begins to shrink. It no longer constantly presses on the pain button, offering moments of respite and allowing life to regain some sense of normalcy. However, the ball does not disappear entirely. It continues to move around the box unpredictably. Even years after a loss, the ball can suddenly strike the pain button, triggering waves of overwhelming emotion that feel just as intense as they did at the beginning.

This analogy beautifully captures the unpredictable and enduring nature of grief. It explains why feelings of loss can resurface unexpectedly, even long after the initial event. The shrinking ball is a reminder that while grief may become less constant over time, it never fully vanishes. The intensity of the pain may subside, but the love and the memories we carry ensure that the ball always remains within the box.

By visualizing grief in this way, we can better understand that its ebbs and flows are a natural part of the healing process. It reminds us to show compassion to ourselves and others as we navigate the uncharted waters of loss and healing.

Written by Robin L. 

"Please secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others" is a familiar phrase during the safety briefing on airplanes. This advice extends beyond air travel and is universally useful. Caring for an ailing or elderly loved one can be both rewarding and demanding. If you find yourself in the challenging position of the "sandwich generation," responsible for the care of both children and elderly parents, the stress can escalate. Add in the demands of working, childcare, and household management, it can quickly lead to a state known as caregiver fatigue or burnout.
Caregiver fatigue manifests as physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion resulting from the constant care of another person. Common symptoms include:
Difficulty sleeping
Unintended weight gain or loss
Withdrawal from friends and family
Loss of interest in personal hobbies
Increased reliance on drugs (including both prescription and non-prescription) or alcohol
Feelings of resentment or even thoughts of harming the person under your care

So, what can you do if you're experiencing caregiver fatigue?
The first step is acknowledging that you are struggling. Once you recognize this, take the time to identify the areas where you require assistance. This will let you tap into available local resources. Consider options such as home health care services to aid with day-to-day tasks, utilizing adult day care centers, or arranging for respite care. There are numerous resources ready to provide support. If you need assistance in discovering these resources, consult your healthcare provider or reach out to a local end-of-life doula for guidance.
Next, try to allocate at least an hour each day for self-care. This can be as simple as taking a leisurely walk or indulging in an episode of your favorite TV show. Engage in activities that bring you joy and allow you to temporarily shed the role of caregiver. Given that caregiving can be emotionally taxing, seeking the guidance of a therapist can be helpful. A therapist can help you navigate your feelings and equip you with additional coping mechanisms for your emotional well-being.
Additionally, remember to prioritize your physical health by ensuring you get adequate sleep, maintaining a balanced diet, engaging in regular exercise, and limiting the use of drugs and alcohol. If eating a healthy, nutritious diet proves challenging, consider meal prepping, a convenient solution. Numerous websites offer guidance on meal prepping, and services like Amazon Prime and Misfit Market can deliver groceries to your doorstep. For exercise, even a short 20-minute walk a few times a week can significantly benefit your well-being. It provides an opportunity to step outside, breathe fresh air, and can be enjoyed solo or with a friend for some much-needed social interaction.

​In summary, You can’t help others if you don't take care of yourself. While caregiving is important, safeguarding your own well-being is critical to provide the best care for your loved ones. Seek help and support when necessary, and remember, it's perfectly okay to prioritize your self-care.

Written By Robin L.